One plus one not half plus half
Where’s my better half or where’s my missing rib? Anytime I hear these questions I wonder.
Who on earth proclaimed you half? When did you seize from being complete?
When was a better half needed? Not even the other half, but the better half.
Who on earth proclaimed you half? When did you seize from being complete?
When was a better half needed? Not even the other half, but the better half.
It’s a wonder today why many Christians enter the “Wife Shopping” season with the aim of finding their missing rib. I have questioned the reasons why people marry so many times, not because I am against marriage, but because I wonder at their thought process. Are you getting married because you have found a companion you can fulfill your God-given purpose with? Or are you looking for a wife because you are at the age to marry?
Today, marriage has become a prayer point, a stage of life one has to attain to achieve completeness. Can you attain completeness in man? Is that possible? What does the scriptures say about this?
1 Colossians 2:10 (KJV)
And ye are complete in Him, which is the Head of all principality and power.
It’s in Christ that we are made complete. Not in marriage, not in man, not in woman. Isn’t this comforting? We don’t need to depend on man or woman for strength. The reason is not that all men are evil, but the Holy Spirit was made to be our helper, not man.
John 14:16 (CEV)
Then I will ask the Father to send you the Holy Spirit who will help you and always be with you.
Please ensure you understand me, companionship is good, marriage is beautiful. But it was never intended to make you complete. That was never the aim, why do you want to complete that which has already been completed by the Lord?
Marriage is beautiful and from the Lord, but it will never make you complete. So when you put the responsibility of being happy on your spouse you are wrong. Your spouse can be a companion but not a cure for loneliness. God is the cure, for loneliness. He satisfies your heart.
JOHN 6:35 (AMP)
Jesus replied to them, “ I am the Bread of Life. The one who comes to Me will never be hungry, and the one who believes in Me [as Savior] will never be thirsty [for that one will be sustained spiritually].
Before you say the Lord satisfies spiritually and not emotionally, I will remind you that you are a spirit living in a body. Don’t forget that!
Don’t put a strain on your marriage or relationship simply because you need your spouse to be a rock for you.
Psalms 18:2a (ERV)
The Lord is my Rock, my fortress, my place of safety. He is my God, the Rock I run to for protection.
You are two human beings who have been made complete by God from the beginning, coming together to become a stronger one.
Mark 10:8 (NKJV)
And the two shall become one flesh; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh.
You were never half in search of another half.
Your spouse shouldn’t draw you away from God, because when that happens, you would experience true loneliness.
Many people are married and lonely, this is because they can’t find fulfillment in their spouse but in Christ.
JOHN 15:5 (AMP)
I am the Vine; you are the branches. The one who remains in Me and I in him bears much fruit, for [otherwise] apart from Me [that is, cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing.
For without God you can do nothing, think on this.
When I start becoming cranky and irritable, personally it’s a sign that I have begun shifting my attention from Him to other things. Your sadness can’t be cured by someone who doesn’t have the ability to make you complete, return back to the Christ who completes you to be whole.
In Him is your Fullness.
31 May 2020 @ 11:59 pm
Feels so good to hear these reminders.
Sometimes we forget.
Thanks so much
30 May 2020 @ 7:08 pm
So true! We do not enter relationships as two halves. We enter as two whole people. Awesome read!
31 May 2020 @ 7:58 am
Yes, we enter relationships as two whole people, we have already been made complete in Christ
30 May 2020 @ 4:06 pm
Thank you for sharing this. I thoroughly enjoyed it and I agree with it
31 May 2020 @ 7:54 am
Thank you very much Debola, we are glad you enjoyed it.