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It is one thing to work for money and another to earn money while doing what you were purposed to do. John discovered his purpose early in life and built his passion around it. At a young age, he has risen to great heights in the banking sector. John is different from his colleagues, making an impact on many lives and businesses. He comes up with mindblowing innovations and ideas.
John is the perfect example of a driven man.
John is also one of those guys that appear to be the perfect catch – he is very handsome and has a creamy chocolate complexion. He is a head taller than most people, and his velvety voice can command a room full of people. Being a passionate believer who has also discovered his purpose is more than icing on the cake. Yet, with all these qualities, Sophia has refused to give John an affirmative answer to his marriage proposal. Sophia believes that all bankers are stingy, and she doesn’t think John is an exception.
Of all the reasons that could exist, this was the last John expected to hear. They have been in a relationship for two years, and John has been nothing but generous to Sophia and people in need. He cannot understand how stinginess is the reason why his babe will not marry him. Yes, he keeps himself accountable to every kobo he spends, which is a side effect of his job, but he thought this was a good side effect. One should be responsible, right?
Sophia is torn apart. “Did I waste the last two years of my life with this man? Lord, is this his purpose in life? Can’t he change to another job?” She comes from a family of bankers, and they are all stingy. John can’t be an exception. He is spending this money on me to convince me that he is different. The way John takes account is also proof of that. He definitely is a stingy man. Why did I fall in love with a cheap man? Can’t he become a lecturer or something? He should change his profession! Even if he is generous at the beginning, he will change soon after.
Can a person’s profession determine their behaviour?
Is there a particular way lawyers behave?
Do all doctors have the same culture?
Are teachers known to have the same value system?
When we began this culture series, we defined culture as an acquired belief system. It is a set of values you grow and nurture over time. It is possible that a group of people working together can be said to behave in a certain way and manner. Especially since they chose that career consciously, you can say they are likely to have many things in common. Even if they might not display similar traits at the beginning, they might acquire it after working in that profession for some years.
This brings up the need for people to be very intentional about their value system. Know this, once your value system becomes threatened by your association with a group of people, whether colleagues or friends, it becomes a cause for concern. Evil company corrupts good morals – this is a true saying. The company you keep can influence your attitude and morals. If all your friends are bullies, you may indeed have some bullying tendencies.
What is the way out?
- Build a strong foundation around your belief system. Don’t just decide to be kind, have a reason for being kind. Research past people that were kind and those that weren’t kind, and draw up conclusions from your research to create a value system so that you won’t question your choice some 20 years down the line.
- Isolate yourself from people who have opposing values. If you want to create the right culture for yourself, be careful of contamination. In the process of making some beverages, they are cultured in jars for some days, and if a fly were to enter one of the jars, it could serve as a contaminant. A tiny fly can make litres of a drink useless. Before you join a company, find out if their culture will serve as a contaminant to yours. Before you make a friend, find out their value system.
- Protect your value system. After you have created your personal culture, you will need to build a protective shield over it. Sometimes, you may have to work with someone with very opposing values, so you will need to learn to uphold your values and also work productively with the person. Please note that this is not a license to go around hating people with opposing values. On the contrary, you should love them. You just need to believe in your culture so much that no amount of pressure can cause you to waver.
I have guided us on how to create a reliable belief system. Now, I will plead that you are wise on whatever belief system you choose to create. Think of your Maker and think of your future before you create that belief system.